When you’re living in a loveless marriage it can feel very much like you’re wasting your time and emotional energy

When you’re living in a loveless marriage it can feel very much like you’re wasting your time and emotional energy. Many people in a situation like this wonder about their future. They think about whether they should take the steps towards divorce or just accept the fact that their relationship will never be what it once was. If this sounds like a definition of your marriage, you need to make some hard decisions. Unless you address the problems now and get the marriage back on a loving track, you may have to face a future filled with emptiness and loneliness.

One thing you must give some careful thought to if you’re living in a loveless marriage is whether you still like and respect your spouse. Falling out of love is sometimes confused with boredom or resentment. A couple gets to a place where they are so disconnected emotionally that they just stop trying to get along. They usually either argue continuously or they just don’t talk at all. Spend some time thinking about your partner and what you feel for them. Consider what your life would be without them and if growing old with them is still high on your priority list. If you realize that you still need them or want them, that’s a sure sign that you need to put some serious effort into rekindling the flame.

If the distance between you and your spouse is being caused by an adulterous affair, that’s a big concern. Some couples decide to stay together for the sake of their children after an affair has come to light. They think that they are doing what is best for their family even though all the love that was there has been pushed aside in place of anger and resentment. If your marriage has been rocked by infidelity and it’s impacted how you feel about your spouse, that’s a major concern. Simply saying that you two will stick together for the kids won’t make the situation any more tolerable. If keeping your family intact is that important to you, you need to work on rebuilding the marriage as well. Children can easily pick up on tension between their parents, so you need to work at alleviating that and rediscovering the love and commitment.

Deciding whether to continue living in a loveless marriage isn’t cut and dry. You and your partner need to take some time to evaluate the potential for rebuilding the bond between the two of you. Once you do that you can then move forward with your decision knowing you’ve worked together to reach a solution.

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