Making a marriage work after a wife has been caught cheating isn’t always the easiest thing to do


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Making a marriage work after a wife has been caught cheating isn’t always the easiest thing to do. In many families the wife is the one who keeps the entire household running.

She’s the heart of the family in many ways. When she has an affair it affects everyone in the family. Unfortunately, as the husband, it affects you even more profoundly than anyone else.

Knowing this, how can you look past what she’s done in order to make the marriage work after her affair and keep the family together?

  1. Agree to disagree in private. This accomplishes many things. First, when things are about to boil over it gives you a cooling off period if children or others are around. This “cooling off” time gives you both the opportunity to gain a little perspective before you “have your say.” Second, it allows you to keep the personal problems between the two of you away from the children. They may know that something is going on with mom and dad but they don’t need to know the details.

  2. Make a point of saying something nice about your wife (to your wife) each and every day. This also accomplishes two different things. First, it helps you realize her value. Second it lets her know that you realize how valuable she is to you and your marriage. Even if you aren’t really feeling the love as you search for new traits and characteristics to tell your wife about you’ll find a few hidden surprises and rediscover some you’ve forgotten along the way.

  3. Start setting goals and making plans together. If you are working together towards a common goal you’ll have a much more difficult time drifting apart. When you accomplish one goal, set a new one and start working towards it. Keep working towards bigger and better things in the future. You’ll both have things to look forward to and you can have fun in the planning process as well.

  4. Set aside at least ten to fifteen minutes each and every day to talk to each other. This is not time that should be dedicated to running down the weekly schedule and commitments or what is going on in the lives of your children. This is time that you need to spend really talking to each other about your relationship, your dreams, and your hopes for the future. Doing this will do more to grow your relationship than almost anything else you can do.

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